Healthy apologies continue to instill trust in those we wish to have relationship with, it not only heals the hurt we are apologizing for, it creates more trust and resiliency within the relationship. It creates more positive history in the relationship, and deepens authenticity and feelings of safety and acceptance. As a result there is a relaxing within the relationship as acceptance increases, thus leading to a decrease in defensiveness, hiding, fear, and offense. The heart of apologizing is admission of wrong doing and progressing past it. 

While there is not the regular use of "apology" in the Bible, it does say much about healing, having unity of mind, restoration, and admission of sin: which are true forms of "apologizing". 

"Finally, all of you, have unity of mind, sympathy, brotherly love, a tender heart, and a humble mind. Do not repay evil for evil or reviling for reviling, but on the contrary, bless, for to this you were called, that you may obtain a blessing. For Whoever desires to love life and see good days, let him keep his tongue from evil and his lips from speaking deceit; let him turn away from evil and do good; let him seek peace and pursue it. For the eyes of the Lord are on the righteous, and his ears are open to their prayer. But the face of the Lord is against those who do evil.” (1 Peter 3:8-12, ESV)

"Finally, brothers, rejoice. Aim for restoration, comfort one another, agree with one another, live in peace; and the God of love and peace will be with you." (2 Corinthians 13:11, ESV)

"Repay no one evil for evil, but give thought to do what is honorable in the sight of all. If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all. Beloved, never avenge yourselves… Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good." (Romans 12:17-21, ESV)

More about forgiveness is noted than apologies. Maybe it's because forgiving is a part of understanding how to apologize. 

Our show on apologizing is on the site and so are many other shows that help us develop a healthy abundant life. 

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Cohabitation: Adult Children at Home

We wanted to share a few notes before Fall and now that school is in full swing around the country about adult children living at home. It is the start of a new era of adult children living at home and sometimes without the intention of moving out. "Launching" your children as really changed this last decade, the world is a very different place. You are not alone in raising adult children at home. 

We wanted to talk about how that might impact your home and your new role in parenting. But most importantly, we wanted to emphasize how you are never done parenting and your life is forever an example for children into their adulthood. How you live in your 50's, 60's, 70's, onward is an example of how to live in each of those stages to your children as they approach those years in their own lives. How are did you handle your marriage? Tragedy? Change? Boundaries? Victories? The journey never ends. 

Listen to the show for a full discussion on parenting when adult offspring are living at home. If you have any questions or need further resources. Please connect with us any time.